The excitement of finally meeting one of my gal friends after a period of 11 years was not only refreshing but realizing that best friends remain on the same wave length even if they meet after ages. We were school friends since class 7th and then went to college together and then as per usual norms (10 years ago) my friend got married after completing her bachelor’s degree. I went on with my further studies and we kept on talking on and off to be in touch but gradually this connection slipped down to few calls a year. Which was terrible but then she had 4 kids and a whole JOINT Family system TO LOOK AFTER and I MANAGED a full time corporate job, marriage and 2 kids. So we both realized that being hands full with an active life style at least we know who is where even if we call once in a while during the year. Coming back to old friend’s reunion, the meeting was all planned and pushed by another dear mutual friend of ours who lives in another city and whenever shed visited Lahore would always crave to meet up all three of us for good old school times sake, but some how we couldn’t plan out something. Finally, few days back when my friend visited from out of Lahore
When we saw each other at our meeting place we actually wanted to scream like school days, hug and jump and let our manners actually go wild. But we just hugged each other warmly, greeted and sat down calmly. Slowly our conversations started by asking how everyone at home is, the kids, husbands, the in laws and off course “How is auntie” Ammi of every one of us. We never forget to ask about each other’s mom particularly. I guess it’s because of the close friendship that we all share with our own mothers and each other’s mom during our school finishing and college starting days. (A helping and guiding, umbrella that was always there to listen to our blab). Soon the conversation took its route to exploring each other daily activity and then after few minutes we found out that we (three of us) were actually going through the same phase of life. Regardless of the fact that one of us was totally, completely, absolutely a house wife with 4 kids, then it was my friend from other city slightly social house wife and then it was I a full time working mother. We all woke up early in the morning, made breakfast; got kids ready for school, and then off to our daily duties. Busy with household chores, or office work. Working, working and again … working.
It was all the same. Our mid life routines were the same. The basic nature of duties was the same. None of us had time for ourselves. We seldom spent time in for our beauty treatments (old slang for activities enhancing our beauties), seldom went out for (just the couple) dinners, or a movie or even meeting up school or college fellows. Always hanging in the worries starting from “Aaj kia khana bane gaa”. Make the kids sit and do homework. Then socializing mostly with the in laws, (for me an added office pressure,) then off course it was MY Lord (our husbbies). He and his wish lists.
We realized we want to talk so much of our school days, laugh like crazy and don’t want to care about the shocked reflection of people in the restaurant. (Multiple facial reaction of: What’s wrong with these females?).For once again we all wanted to feel those moments of our lives which genuinely were missing in our present lives. All the memories of pranks with teachers and fellow students made us laugh loud and we kept on talking and laughing till the time we were exhausted. This was such a relief that we all felt so fresh and rejuvenated. It’s true that childhood is the best time in anyone’s life. Freedom to think, and take charge of your life is so different in every manner that it can not be compared with any other phase of one’s age.
After spending few hours in such a relief we all departed with a feeling and promises to meet up and do this reunion again some time (and thinking silently in our minds that how difficult it would be to escape again form our routine circles).
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